Six Obstacles to a Successful Relationship With a Psychopath


“The vast symptoms of this condition include traits such as:

lack of or minimal empathy
pathological lying
a tendency toward boredom
blame shifting

“In companies, individuals with psychopathy can orchestrate the loss of jobs, turn people against each other, or divide a team. Within intimate relationships, they can leave partners and family members struggling with the impact of trauma, betrayal, and abuse, potentially lasting years after they are gone.”

“Aside from problems such as minimal empathy, antagonism, manipulation, and anger, 6 additional factors that hinder safe relationships with a psychopath:

1. Minimal capacity to bond.

At the beginning of their intimate relationships, they are typically excited and stimulated by their new partner. This state can easily be mistaken as bonding and deep caring for their mate. However, this tends to be the dopamine-driven stage of romantic love that can feel like addictive attraction. Once that fades, so does their interest. It is often at this point that they display disdain for their partner.”

“2. Dysfunctional relationship cycle.

They often demonstrate a predictable cyclical style of intimate relationships…They idealize, devalue, and then discard their partners, with no concern for the pain they leave behind.”

“3. Inability to offer a genuine apology.

When they hurt someone or cause damage, they usually will not offer an apology.  Their stance is typically, “Move on,” “Let it go,” “You’re too sensitive,” or, “Why are you still talking about that—it’s in the past!”

“4. Presence of high narcissism.

For those with primary psychopathy, it is in theirnature to have an incredibly inflated, grandiose sense of self. They do not need or care about the approval of others. Any desire they have for control or worship is associated with feelings of superiority, not insecurity. Unfortunately, for the individual with psychopathy, there tends to be no genuine interest in friendships.”

“5. Everyone is assigned a role and has a use: “You’re my object.”

They have a strong need for power and control and often place others in the role of “loser,” even those who demonstrate loyalty, trust and love toward them…They consider some people puppets, who will defend them, agree with them, or sacrifice their reputation to protect them. It is often their preference to have numerous puppets.”

6. Immorality.

Psychopathy is a disorder that has immorality as a core feature. When there is immorality, harm to others tends to follow. It would not be uncommon for someone with this condition to have secret/dual lives, pervasive hateful thoughts, or a consistent pattern of violating behaviors. Examples include Internet trolling, using children as pawns, abusing/bullying others, or forcing a partner to have sex.”


Freeman, R. (2015, June 11).  Six Obstacles to a Successful Relationship With a Psychopath. Retrieved August 18, 2015, from